I woke up yesterday morning to Wayne Wonder's 'No Letting Go'(having dozed off with my earpiece on. Adele's 'Don't You Remember' being the last song I remember listening to); the lyrics of the song began to make more meaning when I received an SMS from a business owner about valentine sales . I wondered how many guys who have bought gifts for 'their' ladies can really sing the chorus of the song(No Letting Go) to their partners(or to themselves) knowing they mean it in their heart of hearts. In this season of “your boos having a boo”, I am almost certain that not up to 60% of guys who will profess love to ladies today can. Giving gifts these days and spending money on women has become a matter of “i can afford to spoil you, do not think you mean anything to me. Enjoy my money till you are phased out” - after all according to Harrysong and Duncan Mighty “Akagum is a sin”.
The next song on my play- list was Wyclef Jean and Mary J Blige's 911. I wondered how many ladies who after receiving a treat today can really sing the lyrics of the song(Mary J's verse) to 'their' boo and mean it in their heart of hearts; that is if the boo of the day/night is truly the boo and not just one of the ones being deceived for whatever reason.
I once was told that “Love is a symbol of Eternity”, then I believed 100%, now I believe 40%. I sometimes wonder if it is ever possible to truly love anyone at all, let alone our love lasting till eternity. If we can, why then would we love someone today with 'all' our heart - as if our lives depend on them and tomorrow just can't bear the thought of waking up next to them.
“It[Love] is not rude, it is no SELF-SEEKING, it is not easily angered, it keeps NO RECORD of wrongs...” - 1 Corinthians 13:15. If the above is the embodiment of love, why then do we see couple recording wrongs done by/to one another? Why do we hear so many unecessary stories from a once roburst relationship - as if both parties were writting down each others wrongs on note books while the relationship lasted? Or is it a case of “we cannot love, if we cannot hate”?
If it were possible to love someone till eternity, why would I hear the girl next door talking to her friend about being in love with two men and . How can we love two people, if we ever did love one? Is it not a case of trying to gain everything available and give little or nothing in return?
If it were ever possible to love one person till eternity, why would you cheat on someone(repeatedly with various people) and (when caught) yet still claim to be in love with the one you are cheating on? How can we reconcile this with the love we are told “does not delight in evil..., and NEVER fails...”. Or is the 'book of love' as Peter Gabriel puts it “too long and boring” that one can't remain at a spot for too long?
Maybe what we have come to know as love - all around us is nothing but mere infatuation. I am almost reaching the conclusion that one can be infatuated for as long as ten years and wake up one morning to say “we are no longer compatible” - leaving his/her partner hanging in the clouds. Is it that we all have 'poisons' that prevent us from being loved for too long?
Proverbs 5:19 aptly captures the Modus Operandi of a love that would last till eternity, “a lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breast fill you at all time with delight; be intoxicated always in her love”. - while the man ought to be intoxicated with just one persons breasts, the woman is meant to satisfy just one person(for a lifetime). That is the template, a love that will last for eternity should follow.
As we witness another Valentine day that will be filled with empty promises and insincerity, try to be the grace on someone's life but if you are going to let anyone down today, follow Adele's suggestion (in 'under the bridge'), let down gently - especially if you brought them to their knees!
If love(that can last till eternity) does exist,I hope you find it out there in measures that will gladden your heart(and not shoot it down with your 'poison') and not throw you under the bridge of eternal despair.
Happy Valentines Day.
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